I am sorry to hear of your loss, I want you to know that I am here for you should you need to vent, reflect, recant or express yourself in other ways that may help soothe and even your loss. I am also here with a few tips and pointers to keep in mind through this, your time of immense dissapointment and general dissillusionment. It is my hope and prayer that you will soon pick yourself up and move on in a more positive direction and increased vigor to fight for what you believe is right and ultimately come to a place where you are strong and able enough to exercise once more, your well deserved constitutional right to vote.

1. It is not your fault. You did what you could so don't beat yourself down or feel you didn't campaign or support Kerry enough, you did all you could.

2. You have four more years to educate people and hopefully you don't have to do much of that as sometimes bad things and decisions rear their ugly heads and manifest themselves soon enough, given time.

3. Remember what's important and that's what you stand for. Hold on to your values and your convictions, winning is not important if hearts or actions are not cooperating with what the mouth says. Words, over time are fleeting but strong convictions, beliefs and perseverance are foundations that formed great countries like America, they are what fledgling countries(mine included), covet, desire to see realized.

4. Count your blessings. I know the future looks bleak and basically terrifying especially for those who have family members at war. But don't let "these" days pass you by, don't spend all your time imagining the seemingly inevitable. Spend time with family, enjoy them, love them, hug your kids, remind your kids about peace, flowers and pretty thing. Introduce other colors (other than red and blue) to them. Cherish the moments, cease the day, whatever cliche makes your day...use it!

5. Though you may not have the upper hand, you can still make Bush listen, he can't ignore a good over 40% of the country he rules! Write him, tell him you want want your husbands back from war! Call him, picket him, nag him...and if it doesn't work, you did your part and sometimes that's all that counts. Imagine how many thousands of slaves stood up to their masters in isolated incidences that ultimately accumulated to a big fat price of freedom for their grandchildren? How many Anne Franks fought to survive against the Nazis in Amazing ways so you could learn about these atrocities performed in WW2? Insert your favorite historical moment that changed history here.

6. "Don't let the sun go down on your anger." That one emotion that costs you a lot more than it does you any good. Left to fester, it may lead you to do things that may compromise your intergrity.

7. There is more to life than the elections. Mull over it, review it, rant, rave, fume, cry, anger over it blog on it, and then get up, make some coffee, clean the house, go gardening, pick up the kids and get on with life! The whole point anyway is to make life a little better right? Well if that plan didn't work, what other plans can YOU implement to enrich your life? Read something, travel, take up a class, learn Judo, create a little happiness to drown this ridiculous dissapointment that unfortunately can't be overturned!

8. Bask in the "athlete's" afterglow of having done the best you could and humbly accept what has happened.

From one on the outside looking in, JU Kerry supporters, hats off to you! You fought the good fight and well you lost BUT you were heard and heads were turned, let's hope some change will come. My nieces are American so I care a little and was with you, though invisibly. I hope this cheers you up a little, if not, please feel free to steal the idea or form some kind of post elections epithet for your emotional salvation!


Comments
on Nov 04, 2004
will you be attending the services? excellent post and advice well worth taking (easy to swallow too, thanks to the welcome dash of humor)
on Nov 04, 2004
Thanks.

We must remember that, as you say it's all about trying to make the world a happier place. As people who live in the comfortable middle class, probably not facing any of the problems we perceive Bush as exacerbating, we must enjoy our fortune. Not to do so would be a crime against those less fortunate than us, equal to the crimes we perceive Bush as contributing to.

It is nice to see such an article featured. In weeks past it has seemed that people just want to be nasty to other people because they have the audacity to fight for equality. I think that has been a shame and both sides should hang their heads a bit for this. Even socialist naivety should be commended for its good intentions. And those who truly believe that Right wingedness can help people should not be yelled at for their naivety either.
on Nov 04, 2004
Very insightful comment Champas!
on Nov 05, 2004

"1. It is not your fault."

No, it isn't. Well, not the average Democrat's fault. I think the Micheal Moores and those akin to him here on JU and the rest of the internet and media made an apathetic subset of Republicans mad enough to go vote. You don't woo people with hateful derision and attacks on our values.

"2. You have four more years to educate people"

You guys really, really can't grasp the concept that maybe YOU might need to be educated over the next four years, can you? See my answer to #1 above. Every time Democrats here make statements like that and try to "educate" grown Republicans like they are ignorant, they just drive home how much the leading edge of the Democratic party has no business possessing a shred of power in the US. They'll have less and less as that attitude continues.

"3. Remember what's important and that's what you stand for. "

Absolutely, as long as you understand that there are no universal truths, and that what is important to you might not be that important to the majority. you might realize in a day or a year that you were completely wrong, and be darn grateful that you didn't get your way. If the left should learn anything from this election it is that they are just one side of the coin and both sides are valid. That's why this election was lost, imho. Democrats spent four years pretending the election in 2000 was rigged and forgot that as many people opposed them as agreed with them.

"4. Count your blessings."

Seems to be the worst problem. The anti-Bush people try so hard to impose the idea that the world is going to hell in a handbasket that I think they damage themselves with all the negativity. I can understand theory and rhetoric, but damn if some people here at JU aren't sounding more and more like Old Testament prophets, screaming about the end of the world if we don't change our ways. Prophets generally didn't have much in the way of fun...

"5. Though you may not have the upper hand, "

Enough with the asinine comparisions of Republican America to the Antibellum South and Nazi Germany. It's pathetic, and spotlights how overly dramatic and full of crap the whole debate is. Overfed soccer moms driving around with Kerry bumper stickers on their $30k SUVs pretending they are slaves or Anne Franks makes me wanna PUKE. See the answer to #1 again...

"6. "Don't let the sun go down on your anger... Left to fester, it may lead you to do things that may compromise your intergrity."

Too late. We have faced the spit and venom and spite of the Left like an ever-increasing hum. I think if people were concerned with the damage to their integrity their hate is causing they should have dealt with it a year ago, before they started bludgeoning people and burning bridges. The people I have seen here who constantly lied to sway people to Kerry aren;t going to get any respect from me for being civil and honest now. I don't really jive with the idea of "Be civil and honest as long as you have nothing to gain from it."

"7. There is more to life than the elections."

Again, I wish someone woul dhave been concerned about that pre-election. JU was basically ruined for me for months. Sure, settle down and feel better, but unless it is done with an objective view of what happened you are just going to revert to the "I know I was right, and that is all that matters" state that festers into elections like the last one. See my answer to #2. Don't overlook your own education. Maybe you can learn to appreciate other people's reality now that you realize how prevalent it is...

"8. Bask in the "athlete's" afterglow"

No doubt. It was trying, but we should be relieved that it is over. Most Democrats fought a good fight and deserve to feel proud of themselves. The rest I think aren't capable of "basking", and will be so possessed and bitter that the election will just continue for four years.

on Nov 05, 2004
Luv ya Wu!
on Nov 05, 2004
Thanks thatone!


And for the sake of keeping the flames down and to encourage happy feelings:) for both sides, i'll just say good thoughts baker but...(and leave it at that.)
on Nov 07, 2004
you can still make Bush listen, he can't ignore a good over 40% of the country he rules! Write him, tell him you want want your husbands back from war! Call him, picket him, nag him...


Yeah, let's do that. *Sarcasm* I know that when I was deployed, the soldiers who had family members hysterically writing congressmen etc were embarassed at the lack of support. They did not feel that people were behind them. And any whiny soldier that cried and complained about how they "signed up for college money" was considered an idiot.

To soldiers who "want out because they don't think Iraq is a good idea":
You signed on a dotted line to serve and protect your country. You did not sign up to pick and choose what you thought was important enough. You signed on to do your duty regardless of personnal beliefs. IF you didn't want to do it, then you shouldn't have commited yourself. Have the courage and honor to keep your word and not try to weasel out of your commitment.

To family members who are desperately tryin to "free the soldiers":
Get your head out of your ass. You are not the only one worried about your loved ones' safety. At least have the backbone to support the troops. Calling unit commanders or writing to political leaders to "get the troops out" isn't going to support them or help them. Regardless of your personnal opinion, you should be supporting the troops, not trying to distract the leaders from the job they have over there because they are trying to deal with hystrionic wives....