apologetics to alone-ness
Published on November 10, 2004 By wuxiaomao In Personal Relationships
So there is a pretty good chance that I am going to be alone for the rest of my life, all this despite all the efforts I have implemented to avoid such an eventuality. I know I am not ugly, detestable or dense. I have a pretty good head on my shoulder and enough physical attributes to render me, marketable. I have tried everything to increase my chances including altering the way I think about computers and the internet, if they handed out Nobel prizes for optimism, I¡¯d have 3 and a couple of nominations.

Internet, bars, churches, parks, friends of friends, classifieds, believe me, I have tried it all and combinations of one or 2 of those too. The thing is if it¡¯s not meant to be then it¡¯s not meant to be. This is just one of those things one can¡¯t ¡°will¡± to make it happen in every way of its meaning.

When it comes down to it, this is what I know. I want love, I need love, I haven¡¯t found love, I don¡¯t know where I can find it or when it will find me and there is nothing else I can do about that.

Should I regret my decision to move here where my chances of finding someone seem slimmer? The truth is that, this decision probably saved me from kissing a lot of frogs and contracting a lot of warts, given an assorted choice range, one tends to make hasty decisions and careless mistakes that ultimately ¡­.I have grown here, I have been happy fulfilling my dreams. I wish I too could have my cake and eat it too but unfortunately I am one of those chosen to take it one piece at a time.

Comments
on Nov 10, 2004
From personal experience, love finds you when you are not looking for it. I was married when I first fell in love. He had sworn off dating. We have been happily together now for over 9 years.
on Nov 10, 2004
We're in the same boat. I'd like to tell you that lots of people go throughout life without love, don't they? So I guess maybe we (I, for sure) are just cursed to be one of the lonely ones.

Stupid love.

And when people say it comes when you're not looking for it seems to be a little fucked up, too. I mean, the only time I LOOK for love is when I really really really need it,and it never comes! That doesn't seem like something i want to get involved with at all. So I say... Fuck love..?
on Nov 10, 2004
Thanks Heather, i know you mean well but you have already been picked for the team...I am still in the place where I don't know whether it will happen or not even though I really want it.

Tangled...you are right
it comes when you're not looking for it


this is the biggest bulshit cliche people only use when they have already seen their "after" pictured and are already married, divorced or madly in love.

Love should be the only subject experts-through-experience are banned from commenting on, who wants to hear someone's firsthand expert advice on death? or sex?
on Nov 10, 2004
He he he . . . I haven't commented 'cause I don't know what to say. I don't deserve the guy I've got, and I don't know how the hell I ended up so blessed, but here I am, all happy and loved and I don't know how or why I got here. Best wishes, wuxiaomao.
on Nov 10, 2004
it comes when you're not looking for itthis is the biggest bulshit cliche people only use when they have already seen their "after" pictured and are already married, divorced or madly in love.


Well pardon me. I was only trying to help. If you didn't want married people to comment...just say so and I would butt out.
on Nov 11, 2004
Thanks Tex, thats the best support you can give...!!! Some things just can't be fixed but empathy, like yours goes a long way. Read your hubby's blog by the way..I think he feels the same way you do! You are both lucky to have found each other!

Heather, you must have read me wrong, I appreciate your comments but you have to understand that some things just cant be helped and sometimes just listening is enough.
on Dec 26, 2004
keep looking. there are many women in the same boat as you . btw am also looking for the love of my life.
on Dec 27, 2004
love?  lawd above!  (its all over on net forums in china aint it?  )  

merry christmas to you as well!
on Dec 27, 2004

hmmmm  i got no idea why there's a blank one above the one above this.  nor do i know why the one above this duplicated.  i cant delet this so im just changing it

HAPPPPPPPPPY NEW YEAR!

on Dec 27, 2004
hahaahah where are you kingbee??? sorry i havent been attending to my blog...but thats because I have been having regular sex.........this space open for any of your crazy hypotheses and sarcastic remarks...talk to you soon!!
on Dec 27, 2004
before the stroke of midnight , 31st of January, as you go out to the streets to greet the New Year, as the fireworks fly, you will see his face,
looking at you from the driver's seat, saying, "you..you.. stay off the streets and watch from the sidewalk..Jeez!" (Of course, I couldn't quite make out the year from my crystal ball..2006?) Anyway, greet the New Year just the same, just in case it's this year.
-no need to put a hex on me, Wux.-just wanted you to smile.
So depressing - hearing all these news on tsunamis and not being able to help and now reading your blog and still not being able to help. What's next? Anyone for Hara-Kiri ?
on Dec 28, 2004
I feel the same way...have been trying to educate my students on current affairs..but for most of them..out of sight is ...well out of mind.

Scatter, you are sweet...I have since met someone about a month ago and have been blissfully happy, all this taken with an ounce of commonsence and reality off course. I hope I will still be holding his hand come 2006...or the hand of my favorite man..Jim Beam or his immigrant neighbor Jose...
on Dec 29, 2004

or the hand of my favorite man..Jim Beam or his immigrant neighbor Jose...


jim and jose be good shipmates missy...just be right careful of capn morgan say i